As I gazed out the window on this somewhat spring day, I couldn’t help but stare as my kids laughed and played.  Refreshment, aliveness, and contentment hit me all at once.  Peace filled my soul at the thought of what a blessing it is to be their mother. A simple, “Mommy will you play with me,” got me out the door.  Sweet memories were made as I watched the kids being little pioneers.

Joy was unmistakable as I witnessed Jaden’s excitement as she rode her favorite horse down the long gravel drive for the very first time. She whispered, “I can do it, Daddy.”

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Laughter and panic came quickly as James so calmly uttered, “Look Mommy, I see something,” as a skunk sauntered right under his nose as he stood at the rippling creek’s edge. What a wonderful time we had watching “Jimmy” Skunk make his great escape.  He was doing so well until “Bowser the Hound” aka George got a whiff of him.  Thornton Burgess books weave nature stories together so well.  We never complain when we actually get to live the things we have read.

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As things quickly settled back down, my heart skipped a few beats while Jacob swung in the rafters of the “work in progress” sheep shed. A Saturday project that was so fitting for a Pawpaw, a Daddy and his two boys. Who says a family driven barn raisin’ is old fashioned?

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Love placed smiles upon our faces as we all took turns playing on the seesaw the kids’ Pawpaw made them the day before.  Fancy toys and store bought are not needed when you have a few boards and an old rounded log.  Tears flooded my heart as I saw that their Pawpaw had taken the time to show them how much he cares.  As they rose up and down, James politely said, “Pawpaw is a good builder, Mommy.”

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A kind of love that is so indescribable overcame me as I was reminded once again that these brothers and sisters truly are best friends.

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And, what contentment I felt as James asked for a little boost. My pleasure, little buddy.  My pleasure…

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Peace. Peace wrapped its arms around me as I watched Jamie walk back up the gravel lane with his two little girls.  Jayla was asleep on his shoulder and spunky little Jaden clasped his hand as if there was no one else in the world.

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What peace I find in the ones who love me.  What peace my Heavenly Father has given me because he loved me first.  His son shed His blood for me. It is His love that shows me how to love others.  He is the only reason that I have unconditional love for the blessings that He is letting me borrow.  I am in awe of the joy, peace, and happiness that He has given me as He is teaching me to be a godly wife and mother.  His love for me is so inspiring. I cling to his word every day, especially John, Romans, and Proverbs as of lately. I strive to know more. What a high price He paid for my happiness. His love is everlasting.  His love is amazing.  His love is joyful.  His love is peaceful.  Oh what a friend I have in Jesus. Please Lord, don’t ever let my desire to feel your love fade away!

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John 8:31-32: Then said Jesus to those Jews which believed on Him, If ye continue in my word, then are ye my disciples indeed; And ye shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.

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True Meaning

What’s the meaning of that word?  Do you really understand what this verse is saying?  Let’s look up the meanings of some of these words.  The kids and I have this conversation as we study Bible verses. Defining unknown words in the Bible helps God’s message become crystal clear. It is best to use an 1828 dictionary to look up words from the Bible because word meanings have changed over time.  You may not know what a word means just by reading it. Sometimes context clues are helpful but other times they are not. Defining words helps reflect their meanings right to you.

As I was pondering some issues on my heart last night, the following questions ran through my mind. What do I reflect to others?  Do I really reflect what I read in Proverbs every day?  If someone looked up my name in the dictionary what words would flow after it?  How do people define me as a person?  These thoughts cut deep.

So, I decided to come up with a definition of what I thought people might find if they looked up my name in the dictionary.  The following words flooded my mind:

Amanda B. – quick tempered, slow to listen, offers advice too often, opinionated, excuse maker, judgemental, weak, a talebearer, meddler of strife

These words continued to race through my mind as I snuggled Jayla as close to my body as I could. I felt tears well up in my eyes. But, I finally took Jayla’s lead and drifted off to sleep.  As I woke this morning, these same thoughts came to my mind. I had prayed and gave it to the Lord.  Or, at least I thought I had. It was evident that I really hadn’t let these thoughts go as I murmured to Jamie while he read Proverbs at the kitchen table. I made my definition of myself come to life as I let the next few words slip from my mouth.  Why do I even bother reading Proverbs if I am not successful at living the virtuous life that is described in the verses? I give up. Why does the Lord expect so much from us if He knows how hard it is to follow through?  I am just not going to try to be like those verses anymore.  It is evident that I am not cut out to be the type of Christian that the Lord expects me to be.  Jamie just listened and went on reading.  (Poor guy!) I know he was kind and offered some words of wisdom, but I don’t even remember what they were.  I was just thankful that he was willing to listen to the nonsense spewing from my mouth.

So, as quickly as I said that I wasn’t going to read Proverbs any longer, I pulled it up on the computer.  And, I began to read Proverbs 28.

1 The wicked flee when no man pursueth: but the righteous are bold as a lion.

2 For the transgression of a land many are the princes thereof: but by a man of understanding and knowledge the state thereof shall be prolonged.

3 A poor man that oppresseth the poor is like a sweeping rain which leaveth no food.

4 They that forsake the law praise the wicked: but such as keep the law contend with them.

5 Evil men understand not judgment: but they that seek the LORD understand all things.

I believe I stopped at verse five.  I became distracted by little blessings peaking at me from every direction. Suddenly, I became consumed in the daily duties of breakfast and the kids’ school.  But, my definition of myself and the ugly words that had spewed from my mouth, continued to bog me down.  So, I decided to evaluate myself again.  I came up with a new definition.

Amanda B. – cares for others, quick tempered at times, listens but quickly offers advice, hurts when others hurt, can be overly opinionated more often than not, makes excuses for wrong doings, loves her family, sees negative actions in others even those closest to her, weak, becomes caught up in strife or causes strife when she should only be listening

While this definition doesn’t hurt quite as bad as the first, some of the words still prick my heart. I am not content with most of those words plastered after my name.  So, what now?  Where do I go from here?  Do I continue to let the devil convince me that I can’t be in the Lord’s will?

Absolutely not!  I cannot be the person God has created me to be without His help. I need Him. He believes in me!  He knows I can be that woman described in Proverbs. He loves me.  He knows what is best! But, he also knows I am human.  He knows I fail too many times.  I know He isn’t satisfied as I constantly mess up His will for my life.  But, thank goodness for His mercy! I am so thankful for His mercy.  But, I want to stop cashing in on it so often.  I want to be more pleasing to Him (because He first loved me). I want to be more pleasing to my family and my friends. So I am praying that before the Lord takes me home to Heaven, the following definition will be written beside my name:

Amanda B. – loves the Lord, loves others and expects nothing in return, joyfully completes tasks at hand,  has a meek and quiet spirit, bears the burdens of others by listening without offering opinions, prays for others instead of judging their actions, is a cheerful giver, waits on the Lord’s will and is content in His will, is content with the Lord’s will in her Christian sisters’ and brothers’ lives, is quick to admit she is wrong and ask for forgiveness, takes her burdens to the Lord and is not an excessive worrier, has faith and is sensitive to the Holy Spirit

Now that is the only definition I am satisfied with.  If God is for it, so am I!! Please pray for me as I ask for the Lord’s help to become the person He so desires me to be. Please pray that I will move out of God’s way and let Him do the work!  I cannot do it on my own.  Please pray that I will not let the devil convince me that these things do not matter. Please pray that I will stay in His word dissecting and defining each and every word! Yes, Proverbs, Galatians, as well as every other book in God’s Holy word makes the importance of bearing fruit crystal clear! Without Him, bearing fruit is impossible! I want to live my life in Christ!
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Pslam 51:10 – Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me.

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It’s A Matter of the Heart

My babies!  My babies are growing so quickly.  I see it every day.  James has shot up like a stalk of corn and is praying that God’s will is for him to be a rancher. Jayla has went from sitting, to crawling, to nearly walking in 10 short months.  Jacob invents new things each free moment he gets.  And just last night, he showed that he can take the death of a pet in stride as he graciously announced that he already knows about the life of Job.  God’s will be done. And little J.J. is sputtering new words as reading becomes her forte bit by bit. At family Bible time she whispers, “I want to keep on reading.”  It all melts my heart and drips freely from my eyes.

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Am I doing my part as I watch them grow? Is Proverbs 31 becoming ingrained in me? Are my cries to my savior being heard?  My cries for Him to live through me with gentleness, meekness, and kindness.  I surely hope so. Does my husband see my efforts?  Does he hear my cries to the Lord?  As he writes in our little green journal, he thanks me for teaching our babies the importance of Mark 12:30. He thanks me for being a Proverbs 31 woman. I read his words of encouragement and am grateful that he sees I am trying. I am trying my best not to fail time and time again -trying my best not to doubt. It is all so new to me. I never truly made sense of it all until recently. I am slowly weaving the pieces together as I flee from doubt.

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Doubt. It creeps in so quickly when you least expect it. It makes you question not only your abilities but your salvation.  Doubt: such a little word with so much power. It is a joy killer. It suffocates. It is one of the devil’s favorite tools. But wait! There is hope. Doubt quickly becomes powerless when God becomes your power.

Not so long ago, He silenced my doubt. He put it to rest. I ran to Him.  I pleaded with Him.  I got in His word.  He was faithful.  He listened.  He is working. I continue to run to Him.  I continue to plead with Him.  I continue to read His word.  He continues to be faithful.  He is empowering me to joyfully complete the daily tasks that come with being a wife, a mother, a teacher.  He silences doubt in an instant.  He is in FULL control.  He is holding onto my heart so tightly.  It is in the palm of His hand.  I never want Him to let go.  His love is everlasting. I love him so. It is a matter of the heart.

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He understands my longing to be a Proverbs 31 woman.  He hears my prayers.  He gives me strength.  He knows how much I love the husband and babies he has blessed me with. It’s not about me.  It’s about them.  It’s about Him.  It’s a matter of the heart.  I call out Psalm 139:23-24 to Him.  I plead for Him to search my heart and not let any wicked ways be found in me. I ask him to take any negative thoughts or complaints away. Because more times than not, I see the negative.  I am a complainer.  Oh, how I want all of that to change.  I long for all of those evil ways to be hushed like the doubt.  What a huge task I have laid at His feet.  My longing is for a heart that bleeds the fruit of the spirit.  That is what He expects.  I want to please Him.  He died for me.  He died for you.  He died for us.  It is the least we can do.  It is a matter of the heart.  His love is sufficient.

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Perfection may be screaming out at you.  Impossible.  Perfection is impossible because of sin.  Yes.  But, all things are possible through Him.  He paid it all.  He is our Savior, our Redeemer, and our Father which art in Heaven.  Following Him is the only way to bear fruit.  I love Him.  I thank Him.  I have no more doubt or fear.  He will give me the strength needed to be a Proverbs 31 woman.  The devil can’t win.  Not this battle.  The Lord is my teacher, my Father, and my strength. His words are beautiful.  He is the author and the finisher.  He is the beginning and the end.

What happens when the anger slips back in?  When the wrong words slip out?  When I get frustrated because the beds are not made, the toys are left out, the dishes are piled in the sink, the husband is working nearly 18 hours each day?  The answer is quite simple. I run to Him.  I ask for forgiveness.  He forgives.  And in my daily journal, I scratch out those horrible sins.  They are forgotten.  I run to those who the anger and frustration spewed over.  I ask them to forgive me.  I hug.  I kiss.  I love them more than ever.  I vow to try harder.  I start over again.  I squeeze tighter.  They hug.  They kiss.  They love me and understand me more. They squeeze tighter.  We all try harder.  We have the power to love through Him.  We all hug.  We all kiss.  We all squeeze tighter.  We all love each other one hundred times more than the day before.  We are human.  We are sinful.  We are powerless without Him.  How sweet it is to be loved by the Savior of the world.   Will you let Him guide your heart?  Proverbs 3:5-6  explains it so well.  His ways, His truths, His words, and His guidance are the only reasons to ever follow your heart. He is so enveloped in mine.  His love is amazing. I will do it all for Him.   It’s a matter of the heart.

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John 8:32 – And ye shall know the truth and the truth shall make you free.

Psalm 19:14 – Let the words of my mouth, and the meditation of my heart, be acceptable in thy sight, O Lord, my strength, my redeemer.

The Fruit of the Spirit bracelet can be purchased here: http://shop.reformu.com/product-p/mr-055.htm

The proceeds from the bracelet go to the women living in the Reformers Unanimous (a Christ-centered addiction recovery program) women’s home in Rockford, IL.  The bracelets are made by the women living in the home, and the money helps them live in the home while they learn that Jesus will set them free from their addictions.  The money is sometimes used to help the women purchase gifts for their children for birthdays and holidays.  It helps the mothers stay connected to their children while learning of Christ’s love as they are being set free from their sinful addictions. The bracelet in the picture was made by a woman name Brittany.  Will you join us and pray for her?

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Just A Little Time

A week or so ago, I decided to try out a new toothpaste just before bed. As I opened the cap, a somewhat familiar scent came rolling out of the tube. I didn’t think much about it until I pressed my toothbrush onto my tongue. The vivid taste of that toothpaste made past memories rush through my mind. And all at once, it hit me! The smell wasn’t so unfamiliar anymore. All of a sudden, I could see myself sneaking my Papaw’s breath mints off of his coffee table. I smirked as I remembered how he would let me pop more than one out of the roll before he acted like he noticed! I would swish the mints around in my mouth and savor the taste as we watched Sanford and Son, The Adam’s Family, and the Braves together.

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You see, most days the big yellow bus dropped me off at his house when I was in elementary school. And, until I tasted that toothpaste just a few nights ago, I didn’t realize how much I still miss him. I miss him calling me Bubba and singing “Oh My Darling” over and over again. He passed away when I was just 22 years old. It was almost a year after my wedding, and his death was the first painful event in my adult life.  I rejoiced that he was no longer suffering, but I wanted to spend more time with him.

Instead of letting wonderful memories heal my hurt the past ten years, I added to the pain by getting hung up on things that don’t really matter. I have been selfish. Over the last decade, I now know that I wasted so much time focusing on the few things that I thought he should have done for me while he was still here. I have focused on him not coming to my wedding. I have focused on him not rescuing me when my washer was flooding my laundry room floor. I have focused on him not calling to check on me like I thought he should. I have focused on the fact that I wanted him to quit smoking, but he wouldn’t. I have focused on how I never got to hear him tell me that he loved me.

It wasn’t that I didn’t love him while he was here. Because I did. I made sure he knew that I loved him not long after I found out he had lung cancer. I wanted him to hear me say that I loved him before he was gone. The two times that I told him he couldn’t say it back. The second time I told him, right before his surgery, I reassured myself that it was okay that he hadn’t bounced those three words back. I just wanted him to know that I loved him. I went further by showing him that he was special when I bought him an angel coin while he was recovering in the hospital. It hung above his bed and was placed in my hand the day he went to heaven. He entered the pearly white gates from his hospital bed.

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I cried like a baby the night he died. I cried like a baby several days after. I cried like a baby when more angel coins fell from heaven and landed at his back door. I even took flowers to his grave not long after. I promised to remember him when I named my future children. But, then I did what I always seem to do. I became numb. I became numb to what it was like when he was here. I became numb to the childhood memories that we had shared. That is until I tasted that toothpaste, and I was forced to see him again!

I went to bed that night with a new outlook of my memories of him. Since that night, I have let the memories take over my thoughts. And suddenly, I no longer focus on the few negative thoughts that I had created in my mind. Can you forgive someone after they are already in heaven? I am living proof that you can! But, this past week has taught me that after all these years, maybe he didn’t even need to be forgiven.

The truth about my Papaw has come to life this week as I have remembered how he loved to eat a slice of apple butter bread with milk splattered over it. (So do I!) I have been able to see him in his trucker’s cap and big round sunglasses trying to teach me how to mow the lawn with that silver Sears mower. I have vividly seen him smiling as he shook his head because I failed miserably! (At the tender age of 10 years old, I was not cut out to be a lawnmower driver.) So, I have once again felt the rake enter my hand as he put me to work raking apples instead. Since the negative is gone, I have allowed myself to breathe in the sweet smell of those overly ripe apples! How I wish I could smell those same apples again. I have stretched out the mirror so he could clean the chimney. A task that I haven’t minded reliving because I got to spend time with him again.

Since I have let all of the negative go, I have once again felt the pounding in my nose as my sister whacked me with a tennis racket one hot summer day while he was watching us many years ago. And, I can still see his face as screaming sisters came running at him.  He just shook his head, made sure I was going to live, and let us go about our way. He did not fuss nor yell that day. He chose to love us just the way we were! He loved us in the good times and bad. Yes! He loved us in the good times and bad.

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This week has taught me that his love shone through every day that he was with us. Now I know how much he loved me even though he never spoke those three words that I expected to hear so often. He showed me that he loved me every time he dropped by and picked me up from school so I wouldn’t get sick on the bus. He showed me that he loved me when he let me make huge bird nests out of all the grass that he had just raked. He showed me that he loved me when he would skip one of his favorite shows so I could watch Saved By the Bell. He showed me that he loved me when he listened to every word as I complained about how some people could be so rude when I worked at that grocery store in college. He showed me that he loved me by listening and not saying much at all! I don’t think he ever uttered a rude word to me. Can my children say the same thing about me? My husband? My sister? My family? My friends? Unfortunately, no!

By embracing his love this week and digging deeper into the person he really was, I have also realized that he not only loved me but he also taught me so many life lessons! Why has it taken me so many years to realize this? He has taught me that it is not strange if you only go to Walmart when you actually need something. He has taught me that the older the truck the better. He has taught me that home cooked meals are what it is all about. He has taught me that blue socks match whatever you are wearing. He has taught me that there is no place like home and family is all that matters. And, as I watched the water rushing from that old washer one more time this week, he has taught me that I don’t always have to have a knight in shining armor! Over thirteen years ago, he was trying to teach me that it is okay to learn to do things on my own.

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This week I have learned that my Papaw didn’t need to be changed.  I was the one who needed to remember how I once loved him for who he was. I needed to love him like I did before he went to see Jesus.  I was the one who needed to learn that life is not always about me.  I have realized that my Papaw was perfect just the way he was, and he had enough love to go around. Just because he didn’t say those three words like I wished he would have, it doesn’t mean that his love wasn’t there. It was! I am so glad that my heart is now healed.  I am so glad that I can feel his love again. It feels good to be able to smile as I see him looking down from heaven. It will be just a little time until we meet again. I know he has a special room for my family in his mansion! And, I know it will be a celebration like no other when my little girl gets to meet the one I named her after.

Jaden Raeann

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Proverbs 25:11 – A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver.

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A Simple Thank You

Wow! It has been a few weeks since I have written.  I thought about writing several times over the holidays, but then I would get busy and not get around to it.  I missed posting about Christmas, Jamie’s birthday, and the New Year. I also missed sharing that during the hustle and bustle of these special times, Jaden lost two teeth and Jayla gained her first two teeth (a big deal in my book!)

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I have to admit that even though I could write tons more about the events that took place in our home over the past few weeks, I choose to focus on you guys instead.  I want to extend a simple thank you to each of you for taking the time to read what I write.  I have always dreamed of being an author, and I have a few books that I have written saved on various computers here and there.  But, this is as far as I have gotten to achieving my dream of writing for others.  I enjoy writing, but more importantly, I enjoy having the fellowship with those who take the time to read and respond to what I write.  So again, thank you.  Thank you for taking the time to read and respond to the words that flow across the pages of Learning God’s Way.  If it weren’t for all of you and the Holy Spirit prompting me to share His wonderful truths, I wouldn’t have much of a reason to peck at this keyboard time and time again.  I hope each of you enjoyed the special spirit of Christmas. And, I pray that 2013 brings you tons of joy.  Let’s band together in this brand new year and let our light shine for the only one that matters!

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(I got this idea from Ann Voskamp’s blog.  I haven’t read any of her books, so I don’t know a lot about her.  But, I liked this idea).

Romans 12:2 And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.

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Every Day Is Beautiful

I will have to admit that this past weekend was a struggle. A rather large unexpected expense came up while we were out-of-town, which left a thorn in my side. I tried not to worry about it, I tried not to complain about it, and I tried not to be frustrated, upset,or angry. I know in Philippians 4:12 that the Lord commands us to do all things without murmurings and disputings. So, why was I murmuring so much?

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(Look at how much fun they were having!)

I was focusing on the ugly moment at hand.  I was focusing on the world.  I was focusing on everything that was not important! I was trying to focus on praising the Lord for keeping us safe when our new “quite a bit used” vehicle broke down miles from home.  I was trying to praise Him. But, I just did not feel like being happy, cheerful, and okay with the situation. I tried to hide my gloominess throughout the day (probably not as well as I should have). But, after reading Philippians 4:4-6 with the kids at breakfast this morning, I realized that I cannot praise the Lord and find peace in Him with resentment in my heart! It. Is. Not. Possible.

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(They were not gloomy, unhappy, or bitter at all!  They were lovin’ it.)

Yes, the little bit of money that I thought the Lord had provided for Christmas is now gone plus more.  But. It. Is. Okay! Do you know why? Let me count the ways. I had wonderful Christian family members and friends encouraging me the whole weekend.  I had four beautiful children and an awesome husband who smiled despite it all. (They handle negative situations so gracefully!) The sun was warm and beautiful, which was such a blessing since we were outside enjoying an amusement park on Saturday (thanks to my mom and step-dad!).  Despite money being tighter than usual, we will have food on our table and a warm house to live in the entire month of December. The Lord always provides for our needs. And, the vehicle that really means nothing in the long view of things, can be fixed and should last us for many years to come. And if it doesn’t: It. Is. Okay!!  A vehicle is a luxury in my book. It is a worldly possession that will eventually rust and crumble to the ground. I am so glad that I don’t have to find my joy in worldly things!  I am so glad the Lord reminded me where my faith belongs this weekend.

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So, today I say thank you Lord for protecting us.  Thank you for sending the right people to encourage us. Thank you for making me understand that the Christmas gifts do not matter. Thank you for reminding me that you are the reason we celebrate Christmas.  You are our gift.  Thank you for helping me teach my children the true meaning of Christmas.  Thank you for taking away my bitter heart.  I love you, I love you, I love you!! You are good all the time.

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Philippians 4:4-7

4 Rejoice in the Lord always: and again I say, Rejoice.

5 Let your moderation be known unto all men. The Lord is at hand.

6 Be careful for nothing; but in every thing by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known unto God.

7 And the peace of God, which passeth all understanding, shall keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.

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(The notes that Jaden snuck and wrote this morning while we were making an ornament to go along with a book we had read. Another reminder that there is joy in every situation and what prompted me to write this post.  I hope you all have a great week, and let’s rejoice in the Lord together!)

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Just A Swingin’

How do you create hours of fun for your kids?

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You tie sheets to the table in order to make hammocks underneath! (Warning – It is pretty fun for mommies, too!!) 😉

Psalm 127:3 – Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.

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O.B.E.D.I.E.N.C.E

A month or so ago, the Lord burdened my heart to dig deeper into what it means to be virtuous.  He gently nudged me until I was completely committed to teaching our children what His word says about being a virtuous Christian.  Our family understands our salvation is a gift from God, and after we ask Him to come into our hearts, He is there to stay!  Ephesians 2:8 explains this well.  But, we also understand that we are to let Christ shine through us by loving our neighbor as ourselves (Matthew 22:37).  What a great command.  I have learned that this is not possible without the Lord’s help and guidance.  Unfortunately, I struggle with this EVERY DAY!  Thank goodness, He is always willing to help me put my flesh to rest.  Not only is He willing to help me, but He is also willing to help my children and my husband become more tenderhearted, too.

The conversation James and I had today made it clear why the Lord has put this burden on my heart!

Me: James, will you throw that paper away, please?
James: Yes, Mommy! I am being obedient!
Me: Wow! Yes, you are!

Can you guess which virtue we have been focusing on for a few weeks now? Can you spell it? O.B.E.D.I.E.N.C.E. I am so thankful that my oldest three children have hid this song in their hearts.  They learned it from the children’s choir at our church.  The words to this song have helped our family so much.  Apparently the 3 year old mentioned above has been paying close attention. The verses we memorized to go with this song are John 14:15 and Ephesians 6:1.  Our family has learned that John 14:15 has to be understood before the commandment in Ephesians 6:1 can take place!

Thank you Lord for helping me learn how to teach my children virtues! Teaching my children how to be virtuous is not only transforming their lives, but my life is being transformed as well. Helping my children understand why it is important for their actions to please the Lord has made me more cautious of whether or not my own actions are pleasing to the Lord.  I have realized that it is so important not to teach in vain. God’s word is coming to life in our home, and I am so grateful.  I know the world would be a happier place if more time was spent teaching children and (adults) virtues.  I know this because our home is slowly becoming a happier place to live.  Loving one another as Christ has loved us is becoming evident in our lives.  And, my heart fills with joy just thinking about it.

From my past experiences as a public and private school teacher and now being a homeschooling mother of four, I have come to the realization that most children are more than willing to be virtuous if the TRUE meaning of why it is so important is taught.  Don’t get me wrong, we have daily struggles in this house, but it is an honor to be able to go straight to God’s word to learn how to handle our conflicts!  If we put forth the time and effort and call upon His name (something that I have struggled with in the past), He is so willing to listen and help.

I am so grateful that the Lord has taught Jamie and me to teach our children scriptures and virtues at a young age.  The Lord has helped us realize that His word is so much more important than any other subject matter that is taught in homes, in public school systems, in private school systems, and any higher education system. Teaching my children God’s word is a burden that the Lord has strongly placed upon my heart, and I am so glad that He has placed it there.  I pray that these verses and virtues will always stick with my children.  I pray that they will always see the need to follow the words of II Peter 3:18, which is one of the first verses that Jacob and I learned together several years ago.  It has helped me understand why my walk with the Lord is so important.

Making sure not to forget how to be obedient, we are now focusing on how to be patient with one another. (Boy, have I needed the practice! It has been so helpful.) Our verse is James 1:3, and the kids are continuously coming to me with examples of biblical people who had to show patience.  Are you wondering how is it going? So far, so good!  🙂

A family that prays together, stays together!  😉

Proverbs 22:6 – Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

(I am clinging to this verse.)

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Look Who Is Six!

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Dear Jaden,

Today was an awesome day! Thank you for bringing so much joy to my heart.  You are a huge blessing. You ALWAYS know how to make all of us laugh.  You say some of the cutest things. Today was no exception.  You made me laugh and smile all day!  It is a day that I will never forget.  Our family would be lost without you.  You make us so proud. I am very proud of how much you have grown in the Lord this year.  You have an amazing way of  letting your love for Jesus shine through your bubbly personality. Don’t ever stop being so tenderhearted and caring.  I love watching you grow and change every day. I thank the Lord for you every day.  He gave your father and me an amazing daughter! And you are an amazing sister to your brothers and sister!

I hope you enjoyed the pictures from our day together.  I hope you will never forget the special memories we shared. I hope you will always hear the giggles that came as you watched the play Miss Nelson is Missing. I hope you will always be able to recall the taste of the Superman ice cream. I hope you will always see yourself sharing your gifts with your friends. I hope you will hear the laughter and chatter forever! I hope you will feel cozy when you relive the warmth inside the ice cream shop and the love of all of your friends. I hope the memory of today will make you smile for many more years to come. But most importantly, I hope you will always know how much you mean to all of us! I love you silly goose! 😉

Love Always,

Mommy

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Your Birthday Interview:

How old are you? 6

What is your favorite food? Macaroni and Cheese

What do you hope you never have to eat again? Broccoli

What is your favorite thing to do? Horseback riding

What is your favorite animal? A Dalmatian

What makes you happiest? Playing outside

What is the best memory from when you were 5? I got saved. 🙂

What is one thing you’d like to do while you are 6? Play with daddy more

What would you like to be when you grow up? A hair stylist

What is your favorite song? This Little Light of Mine

Where is your favorite place to eat? HodgePodge on Main

What is your favorite book? The Little Rabbit

Where would you like to go on vacation? The beach

What would you like the world to know? I love my dad and my family and my mom and my Jacob and my James and Jayla.

Proverbs 31:3 – Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.

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How do you spell J.O.Y?

(Note: I wrote most of this the day after the election in 2012. I edited it in 2016 to make my thoughts clearer. Things have tremendously changed in our family since 2012. Despite the changes, all of God’s principles have stayed the same. In my revision, I did not eleborate on any changes or the size our family is now because I wanted to leave the post as original as possible. I want to be able to read this post ten years from now and know what I was thinking on the day I wrote this in 2012. I want to always be reminded that just because our circumstances change, God’s Word does not. Our family growth is a huge blessing, but in the midst of blessings it still seems that policies have continued to decline for our country. My hope is not in this country. Six years later, God’s Word has not changed. It will not change 10 or 20 years from now. Jesus continues to be my rock and my salvation!)

Today I choose to write about a subject very near and dear to my heart: Abortion. Abortion has been a topic of discussion among Americans for awhile now. The Lord has put this topic on my heart.  The first few paragraphs may seem harsh, but keep reading. There is hope!

Abortion is murder. Period. All four of my children are breathing and their hearts are beating.  They are all special unique individuals that the LORD knitted in my womb. And they were breathing and their hearts were beating while they were in my womb!  I am saddened by the thought that I could have chosen to murder my children before they were born because it is supposedly MY right.  It is not a Right that I should have. It is not a right that I will take.  I refuse this right!  It is not a right that any woman should have. I would have died for any of my children; I still would. Would you attempt to save your child’s life if he was drowning even if it meant you might drown yourself?

Being against abortion, is not my opinion, it is God’s Word. It saddens me to think that children are no longer viewed as a blessing from the Lord. Children are not a curse who take away careers or get in the way of best laid out plans. The fruit of the womb is God’s reward. Children are and will always be a reward! Psalm 127:3.

I pray that the women of our country will turn back to understanding that it is their duty but also a privilege and an honor to be a Proverbs 31 woman. Even if you have had an abortion, God’s love is still the same for you. Mine is, too. But, God is the one who can forgive you if you are His child and you ask. God is the one who instructs us to ask for forgiveness when we choose to sin against Him.

Please do not think I am bashing anyone who has made sinful choices. I have made plenty of sinful choices. Choices which I now hate. But there is good news. The Lord continues to teach me how to be pleasing to Him. I am thankful that God is a God of forgiveness. Praise the Lord! Jesus’s blood washed my sins away. Every single one of them: past, present, and future. That’s why I am so convicted when I make sinful choices throughout my day. God paid a great price for me. He died for me. His child!

God can mold each woman into the person He desires her to be. What a wonderful thought! This truth is what keeps me going each day. Not only can God forgive women, but our entire nation must ask for forgiveness, turn from our sinful habits, and put God first. I hope you all continue to understand how very convicting my own words are to myself!! We all fall short of the glory of God, but with God’s strength, we can unite and make our nation a better place. Our hope has to be in the Lord and not those around us.

I want to stress one last time that my family is absolutely not a perfect family, but through God’s grace, Jamie and I have banded together to raise our children to understand that we have to stand strong on Biblical principles. We have to stay sensitive to God’s direction. Without the Lord, we have no hope. We can’t apologize for following God’s Word in our lives. The Lord has done so much for our family, and He continues to convict us and keep us on the right path. It’s so easy to get drawn away and have our beliefs tested in this wicked world; however, I pray that as a family, we will always cling to God’s word for guidance and go to Him when we lack wisdom -James 1:5. Our faith in God must stand strong.

(Your child is just as special as my children.  God created my children and yours.  The aborted child is just as special as my children and yours.  God creates every child.)

Sadly, I am not sure where the faith of many American citizens resides. It should not be in any political person who chooses abortion or any other sinful laws as an option. Our family is living proof that God will provide all your NEEDS and guide your paths if you ask and have faith.  …without faith it is impossible to please Him. -Hebrews 11:6

My dream as an American is for every citizen to understand that Jesus has to be first. That is the only way to have JOY! Without Jesus first, there isn’t ever going to be any joy. Look around at all the strife going on in America. Christians let’s do our job. Let’s show others how great Jesus really is. Let’s show others how following Him is the only way to true freedom.

After last night’s election, my faith does not waver. I will continue to pray for my family. As a family, we will continue to pray for our nation and its leaders.  I pray that God will soften our leaders’ hearts.  I pray that they will accept Him as the true King, and they will trust His lead before it is too late. The leaders of our country were knitted by God; therefore, as Christians, it is our duty to pray for them.  I pray that as Christians, we can be a witness to the American leaders and our fellow citizens around us. And, I pray that we will see them in Heaven one day.

God is a God full of grace, but He is also our judge and will bring chastisement to those who choose not to follow Him. That chastisement is for our own good. As uneasy as it may seem, something has to be done to wake America up. America was founded under God’s name from Biblical principles. And the wrath of God is out of our control. Our sinful habits do hurt those who follow us! The sinful choices that our leaders have made have hurt a lot of people, but our individual sin (mine included) also hurts those around us. Those we love the most!

So, how has the greatest nation become so blinded in such a short period of time?  The answer is simple. The leaders now focus on what they want and what they think the majority wants instead of what God wants. It is a sad time, but it is also a time for Christians to pray, pray, pray!  It is time to spread the good news of the gospel. God answers prayers, and He will never forsake His people.  And, it is written that if you are on His side, evil will not prevail in the end! I am thankful to be on His side. Whose side are you on? Today is the day of salvation.  Please join my family and pray that His will shall be done.

Romans 8:28 -And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.

II Chronicles 7:14 – If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.

Joshua 24:15 – And if it seem evil unto you to serve the LORD, choose you this day whom ye will serve; whether the gods which your fathers served that were on the other side of the flood, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land ye dwell: but as for me and my house, we will serve the LORD.

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